So, I have no idea about what the body count is at this point--and care very little. The thing is that Tiger Woods and his situation are only remarkable, because he's Tiger Woods. Women everywhere everyday are making the same discoveries about the loves of their life. I have no interest in Tiger or Elin or even where they go from here.
I am more interested in the lessons that all of us can take away from this fiasco--aside from the obvious. I don't make any judgments, just observations. In fact, I have several.
Money does not soften the hurt and anguish of a cheating partner. If anything, it probably makes it worse. Imagine having your most humiliating moments be the lead on every network and internet site in the free world. One of the main reasons why people are able to regroup from personal tragedies is because they are personal. We are able to get support from friends and people in our circle to pick up the pieces and start fresh--however that may look.
Whether or not to stay or go should not be decided in the moment. When there is trouble in a relationship, there needs to be a "pullback" moment. It's the equivalent of taking a time out before you go for 4th and goal in football. There needs to be a discussion with clear heads and hearts because whatever comes next--good, bad, or indifferent--will be HUGE.
Family can hurt more than help in this situation. Let's be honest. When the gyrls get together, we will generally vote for "leave his trifling ass" on general principle. It's never that easy. Whether to leave or stay comes down to what is best for you emotionally. Friends who really are, will support you no matter what.
I think only the scope of the cheating is a surprise. I'm finding it a little hard to believe that Elin had no idea that her husband had a wandering eye and a penis to match. The sense of entitlement associated with the sheer amount of women, leads me to believe that there is some sort of addiction. Generally, addicts suck at hiding there addictions. Unless you live under a rock, there's no way, even with handlers, you could hide the number of sex junkets. Behaviors of this magnitude don't just pop up.
So, those are just a couple of observations. At the end of the day, whatever happens will make the evening news. I thinks it's fortunate that their children are young so the scarring will be mimimal. I think that the whole situation could have been avoided with some honesty. A billion dollar atlete with a penis? Let's be real. Love means different things to different people and I would suspect there is a money aspect to it as well. As women, we tolerate lots of things for the sake of the relationship or our illusion about what the relationship is or can be. What would you tolerate for the love of your billion dollar spouse? Think about it and get it done.
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